Fear Is Not An Option – change the option to change the result

Our own fear can often be a huge hindrance to living a life of authenticity, blocking us from doing what we need or want to do in our own interest. Basing such fear on what others may say or think of us if we act on our own. However, if we want to go beyond the ordinary we need to break from that crippling, demoralizing fear. Instead, we need to force ourselves to think outside that fear box so to speak. We need to make it our personal motto that this fear is not an option. Otherwise with fear as an option it soon becomes a crutch when what we need is positive action.

Read More

The Conflict Within – Spiritual versus Emotional

One of the challenges in belonging to, and more specifically being “raised up in” a particular religion or spiritual environment is balancing our natural born need for independence with adherence to set principles. A youth may be said to be indoctrinated in the culture he or she is being raised up in. I don’t believe indoctrination is necessarily a bad thing depending on what’s involved. At its most basic, it simply means being trained or taught. So, although it sounds a bit disconcerting, we are all indoctrinated in something, be it a cultural environment, education, work, etc. The complication as I see it is when, as you grow up, you…
Read More

Sacrifices and Challenges – Something’s Gotta Give

Making the Sacrifice Sometimes having the yes attitude means you need to sacrifice. Our time is limited on this earth so we best make good use of it. It’s so easy to become sidetracked and distracted from our course of direction. Others in our lives will not have the same vested interest in our success. That’s ok. They don’t need to. However, we need to decide if these folks are hindering us from achieving our goals or purpose. If they are, then we need to decide if we should limit our contact with such persons. Career coach Marty Nimko often refers to the risk vs. reward scenario. In whatever endeavor…
Read More

Learning… to Understand

Be careful what you wish for; or even better, think twice before you leap. These sentiments are always sound advice – too bad we always seem to realize it after the fact. You know all that 20/20 hindsight, etc., blah, blah, blah. No doubt the lessons in life can be hard hitting at times, supposedly to knock some sense back to you. Sometimes the lessons are positive ones that lift us up and make us the better for it. More often, at least in my case, it seems life lessons knock you to the ground and hold you down by both arms. Yeah, I’m learning from these lessons but I…
Read More

Take a Chance – It Just May Be Worth It

There are so many things in life we may feel are happenstance, just a coincidence. What some call the luck of the draw, being in the right place at the right time, or even a “chance” encounter with someone, right? Have you ever wished you were better prepared when this happened? I know I have. How often do we wish we could have jumped at the “chance”? I read the other day that “chance favors only the prepared mind”, a saying attributed to the famed scientist Louis Pasteur. These words stuck with me. They kept playing over and over in my head ... “chance favors only the prepared mind”. I…
Read More

Communication Is an Art

“Do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?” Chris Tucker’s character Carter yelled this at Lee played by Jackie Chan in the movie Rush Hour trying to bridge the communication gap between them. Well, it was more a language barrier, but what Carter understood is that good communication is crucial to having a meaningful and relevant relationship. It’s the cornerstone of any lasting relationship – whether they are fictional cops or our real life associates. Understandably, good communication is an art and like any other art, not all of us are naturally gifted in it. We need to train ourselves to become adept at successfully communicating.…
Read More

Freedom… Enjoy It!

“Freedom discovers the man the moment he loses concern over what impression he is making or about to make.” – Bruce Lee To be free… that is the desire of all men and women isn’t it? But what freedom means to one individual may be the opposite of what it means to another. And a person may appear to be free in some ways while completely enslaved in others, as in an addiction to alcohol or drugs for example. So relative freedom is desired by all if not most and we work to find that balance of freedom in our lives. We’d love to have absolute or complete freedom over…
Read More

It Does Get Better

I guess it does get better. If there’s one thing I've got used to the past few years, it’s that when things go wrong - they go seriously wrong. It doesn't do any good to second guess or beat myself up about how life unfolds. I was making my bed a long time and as the saying goes - ‘you made your bed now go lie in it.’ So here I am – lying in my bed – my huge California King sized bed of life. If there was a way to kick my own ass, I would. Like that scene in the movie “Liar, Liar” when Jim Carrey beats…
Read More

Living life in “the In-Between”

Recently, I reflected on how I’d lost more than a few long time friends in death over the past several years. Some had been battling sickness for awhile, but most of them were untimely, due to a sudden illness – and still relatively young in age. It hit home how fragile our lives really are. I wondered how many had really lived the life they wanted. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. What we do in between is up to us and becomes our legacy. Today, I feel more strongly than ever, that the relatively small amount of time one has to live should be spent in as…
Read More

Fear Is Not An Option – change the option to change the result

Our own fear can often be a huge hindrance to living a life of authenticity, blocking us from doing what we need or want to do in our own interest. Basing such fear on what others may say or think of us if we act on our own. However, if we want to go beyond the ordinary we need to break from that crippling, demoralizing fear. Instead, we need to force ourselves to think outside that fear box so to speak. We need to make it our personal motto that this fear is not an option. Otherwise with fear as an option it soon becomes a crutch when what we need is positive action.

Read More

The Conflict Within – Spiritual versus Emotional

One of the challenges in belonging to, and more specifically being “raised up in” a particular religion or spiritual environment is balancing our natural born need for independence with adherence to set principles. A youth may be said to be indoctrinated in the culture he or she is being raised up in. I don’t believe indoctrination is necessarily a bad thing depending on what’s involved. At its most basic, it simply means being trained or taught. So, although it sounds a bit disconcerting, we are all indoctrinated in something, be it a cultural environment, education, work, etc. The complication as I see it is when, as you grow up, you…
Read More

Sacrifices and Challenges – Something’s Gotta Give

Making the Sacrifice Sometimes having the yes attitude means you need to sacrifice. Our time is limited on this earth so we best make good use of it. It’s so easy to become sidetracked and distracted from our course of direction. Others in our lives will not have the same vested interest in our success. That’s ok. They don’t need to. However, we need to decide if these folks are hindering us from achieving our goals or purpose. If they are, then we need to decide if we should limit our contact with such persons. Career coach Marty Nimko often refers to the risk vs. reward scenario. In whatever endeavor…
Read More

Learning… to Understand

Be careful what you wish for; or even better, think twice before you leap. These sentiments are always sound advice – too bad we always seem to realize it after the fact. You know all that 20/20 hindsight, etc., blah, blah, blah. No doubt the lessons in life can be hard hitting at times, supposedly to knock some sense back to you. Sometimes the lessons are positive ones that lift us up and make us the better for it. More often, at least in my case, it seems life lessons knock you to the ground and hold you down by both arms. Yeah, I’m learning from these lessons but I…
Read More

Take a Chance – It Just May Be Worth It

There are so many things in life we may feel are happenstance, just a coincidence. What some call the luck of the draw, being in the right place at the right time, or even a “chance” encounter with someone, right? Have you ever wished you were better prepared when this happened? I know I have. How often do we wish we could have jumped at the “chance”? I read the other day that “chance favors only the prepared mind”, a saying attributed to the famed scientist Louis Pasteur. These words stuck with me. They kept playing over and over in my head ... “chance favors only the prepared mind”. I…
Read More

Communication Is an Art

“Do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?” Chris Tucker’s character Carter yelled this at Lee played by Jackie Chan in the movie Rush Hour trying to bridge the communication gap between them. Well, it was more a language barrier, but what Carter understood is that good communication is crucial to having a meaningful and relevant relationship. It’s the cornerstone of any lasting relationship – whether they are fictional cops or our real life associates. Understandably, good communication is an art and like any other art, not all of us are naturally gifted in it. We need to train ourselves to become adept at successfully communicating.…
Read More

Freedom… Enjoy It!

“Freedom discovers the man the moment he loses concern over what impression he is making or about to make.” – Bruce Lee To be free… that is the desire of all men and women isn’t it? But what freedom means to one individual may be the opposite of what it means to another. And a person may appear to be free in some ways while completely enslaved in others, as in an addiction to alcohol or drugs for example. So relative freedom is desired by all if not most and we work to find that balance of freedom in our lives. We’d love to have absolute or complete freedom over…
Read More

It Does Get Better

I guess it does get better. If there’s one thing I've got used to the past few years, it’s that when things go wrong - they go seriously wrong. It doesn't do any good to second guess or beat myself up about how life unfolds. I was making my bed a long time and as the saying goes - ‘you made your bed now go lie in it.’ So here I am – lying in my bed – my huge California King sized bed of life. If there was a way to kick my own ass, I would. Like that scene in the movie “Liar, Liar” when Jim Carrey beats…
Read More

Living life in “the In-Between”

Recently, I reflected on how I’d lost more than a few long time friends in death over the past several years. Some had been battling sickness for awhile, but most of them were untimely, due to a sudden illness – and still relatively young in age. It hit home how fragile our lives really are. I wondered how many had really lived the life they wanted. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. What we do in between is up to us and becomes our legacy. Today, I feel more strongly than ever, that the relatively small amount of time one has to live should be spent in as…
Read More

Fear Is Not An Option – change the option to change the result

Our own fear can often be a huge hindrance to living a life of authenticity, blocking us from doing what we need or want to do in our own interest. Basing such fear on what others may say or think of us if we act on our own. However, if we want to go beyond the ordinary we need to break from that crippling, demoralizing fear. Instead, we need to force ourselves to think outside that fear box so to speak. We need to make it our personal motto that this fear is not an option. Otherwise with fear as an option it soon becomes a crutch when what we need is positive action.

Read More

The Conflict Within – Spiritual versus Emotional

One of the challenges in belonging to, and more specifically being “raised up in” a particular religion or spiritual environment is balancing our natural born need for independence with adherence to set principles. A youth may be said to be indoctrinated in the culture he or she is being raised up in. I don’t believe indoctrination is necessarily a bad thing depending on what’s involved. At its most basic, it simply means being trained or taught. So, although it sounds a bit disconcerting, we are all indoctrinated in something, be it a cultural environment, education, work, etc. The complication as I see it is when, as you grow up, you…
Read More

Sacrifices and Challenges – Something’s Gotta Give

Making the Sacrifice Sometimes having the yes attitude means you need to sacrifice. Our time is limited on this earth so we best make good use of it. It’s so easy to become sidetracked and distracted from our course of direction. Others in our lives will not have the same vested interest in our success. That’s ok. They don’t need to. However, we need to decide if these folks are hindering us from achieving our goals or purpose. If they are, then we need to decide if we should limit our contact with such persons. Career coach Marty Nimko often refers to the risk vs. reward scenario. In whatever endeavor…
Read More

Learning… to Understand

Be careful what you wish for; or even better, think twice before you leap. These sentiments are always sound advice – too bad we always seem to realize it after the fact. You know all that 20/20 hindsight, etc., blah, blah, blah. No doubt the lessons in life can be hard hitting at times, supposedly to knock some sense back to you. Sometimes the lessons are positive ones that lift us up and make us the better for it. More often, at least in my case, it seems life lessons knock you to the ground and hold you down by both arms. Yeah, I’m learning from these lessons but I…
Read More

Take a Chance – It Just May Be Worth It

There are so many things in life we may feel are happenstance, just a coincidence. What some call the luck of the draw, being in the right place at the right time, or even a “chance” encounter with someone, right? Have you ever wished you were better prepared when this happened? I know I have. How often do we wish we could have jumped at the “chance”? I read the other day that “chance favors only the prepared mind”, a saying attributed to the famed scientist Louis Pasteur. These words stuck with me. They kept playing over and over in my head ... “chance favors only the prepared mind”. I…
Read More

Communication Is an Art

“Do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?” Chris Tucker’s character Carter yelled this at Lee played by Jackie Chan in the movie Rush Hour trying to bridge the communication gap between them. Well, it was more a language barrier, but what Carter understood is that good communication is crucial to having a meaningful and relevant relationship. It’s the cornerstone of any lasting relationship – whether they are fictional cops or our real life associates. Understandably, good communication is an art and like any other art, not all of us are naturally gifted in it. We need to train ourselves to become adept at successfully communicating.…
Read More

Freedom… Enjoy It!

“Freedom discovers the man the moment he loses concern over what impression he is making or about to make.” – Bruce Lee To be free… that is the desire of all men and women isn’t it? But what freedom means to one individual may be the opposite of what it means to another. And a person may appear to be free in some ways while completely enslaved in others, as in an addiction to alcohol or drugs for example. So relative freedom is desired by all if not most and we work to find that balance of freedom in our lives. We’d love to have absolute or complete freedom over…
Read More

It Does Get Better

I guess it does get better. If there’s one thing I've got used to the past few years, it’s that when things go wrong - they go seriously wrong. It doesn't do any good to second guess or beat myself up about how life unfolds. I was making my bed a long time and as the saying goes - ‘you made your bed now go lie in it.’ So here I am – lying in my bed – my huge California King sized bed of life. If there was a way to kick my own ass, I would. Like that scene in the movie “Liar, Liar” when Jim Carrey beats…
Read More

Living life in “the In-Between”

Recently, I reflected on how I’d lost more than a few long time friends in death over the past several years. Some had been battling sickness for awhile, but most of them were untimely, due to a sudden illness – and still relatively young in age. It hit home how fragile our lives really are. I wondered how many had really lived the life they wanted. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. What we do in between is up to us and becomes our legacy. Today, I feel more strongly than ever, that the relatively small amount of time one has to live should be spent in as…
Read More

Fear Is Not An Option – change the option to change the result

Our own fear can often be a huge hindrance to living a life of authenticity, blocking us from doing what we need or want to do in our own interest. Basing such fear on what others may say or think of us if we act on our own. However, if we want to go beyond the ordinary we need to break from that crippling, demoralizing fear. Instead, we need to force ourselves to think outside that fear box so to speak. We need to make it our personal motto that this fear is not an option. Otherwise with fear as an option it soon becomes a crutch when what we need is positive action.

Read More

The Conflict Within – Spiritual versus Emotional

One of the challenges in belonging to, and more specifically being “raised up in” a particular religion or spiritual environment is balancing our natural born need for independence with adherence to set principles. A youth may be said to be indoctrinated in the culture he or she is being raised up in. I don’t believe indoctrination is necessarily a bad thing depending on what’s involved. At its most basic, it simply means being trained or taught. So, although it sounds a bit disconcerting, we are all indoctrinated in something, be it a cultural environment, education, work, etc. The complication as I see it is when, as you grow up, you…
Read More

Sacrifices and Challenges – Something’s Gotta Give

Making the Sacrifice Sometimes having the yes attitude means you need to sacrifice. Our time is limited on this earth so we best make good use of it. It’s so easy to become sidetracked and distracted from our course of direction. Others in our lives will not have the same vested interest in our success. That’s ok. They don’t need to. However, we need to decide if these folks are hindering us from achieving our goals or purpose. If they are, then we need to decide if we should limit our contact with such persons. Career coach Marty Nimko often refers to the risk vs. reward scenario. In whatever endeavor…
Read More

Learning… to Understand

Be careful what you wish for; or even better, think twice before you leap. These sentiments are always sound advice – too bad we always seem to realize it after the fact. You know all that 20/20 hindsight, etc., blah, blah, blah. No doubt the lessons in life can be hard hitting at times, supposedly to knock some sense back to you. Sometimes the lessons are positive ones that lift us up and make us the better for it. More often, at least in my case, it seems life lessons knock you to the ground and hold you down by both arms. Yeah, I’m learning from these lessons but I…
Read More

Take a Chance – It Just May Be Worth It

There are so many things in life we may feel are happenstance, just a coincidence. What some call the luck of the draw, being in the right place at the right time, or even a “chance” encounter with someone, right? Have you ever wished you were better prepared when this happened? I know I have. How often do we wish we could have jumped at the “chance”? I read the other day that “chance favors only the prepared mind”, a saying attributed to the famed scientist Louis Pasteur. These words stuck with me. They kept playing over and over in my head ... “chance favors only the prepared mind”. I…
Read More

Communication Is an Art

“Do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?” Chris Tucker’s character Carter yelled this at Lee played by Jackie Chan in the movie Rush Hour trying to bridge the communication gap between them. Well, it was more a language barrier, but what Carter understood is that good communication is crucial to having a meaningful and relevant relationship. It’s the cornerstone of any lasting relationship – whether they are fictional cops or our real life associates. Understandably, good communication is an art and like any other art, not all of us are naturally gifted in it. We need to train ourselves to become adept at successfully communicating.…
Read More

Freedom… Enjoy It!

“Freedom discovers the man the moment he loses concern over what impression he is making or about to make.” – Bruce Lee To be free… that is the desire of all men and women isn’t it? But what freedom means to one individual may be the opposite of what it means to another. And a person may appear to be free in some ways while completely enslaved in others, as in an addiction to alcohol or drugs for example. So relative freedom is desired by all if not most and we work to find that balance of freedom in our lives. We’d love to have absolute or complete freedom over…
Read More

It Does Get Better

I guess it does get better. If there’s one thing I've got used to the past few years, it’s that when things go wrong - they go seriously wrong. It doesn't do any good to second guess or beat myself up about how life unfolds. I was making my bed a long time and as the saying goes - ‘you made your bed now go lie in it.’ So here I am – lying in my bed – my huge California King sized bed of life. If there was a way to kick my own ass, I would. Like that scene in the movie “Liar, Liar” when Jim Carrey beats…
Read More

Living life in “the In-Between”

Recently, I reflected on how I’d lost more than a few long time friends in death over the past several years. Some had been battling sickness for awhile, but most of them were untimely, due to a sudden illness – and still relatively young in age. It hit home how fragile our lives really are. I wondered how many had really lived the life they wanted. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. What we do in between is up to us and becomes our legacy. Today, I feel more strongly than ever, that the relatively small amount of time one has to live should be spent in as…
Read More

Fear Is Not An Option – change the option to change the result

Our own fear can often be a huge hindrance to living a life of authenticity, blocking us from doing what we need or want to do in our own interest. Basing such fear on what others may say or think of us if we act on our own. However, if we want to go beyond the ordinary we need to break from that crippling, demoralizing fear. Instead, we need to force ourselves to think outside that fear box so to speak. We need to make it our personal motto that this fear is not an option. Otherwise with fear as an option it soon becomes a crutch when what we need is positive action.

Read More

The Conflict Within – Spiritual versus Emotional

One of the challenges in belonging to, and more specifically being “raised up in” a particular religion or spiritual environment is balancing our natural born need for independence with adherence to set principles. A youth may be said to be indoctrinated in the culture he or she is being raised up in. I don’t believe indoctrination is necessarily a bad thing depending on what’s involved. At its most basic, it simply means being trained or taught. So, although it sounds a bit disconcerting, we are all indoctrinated in something, be it a cultural environment, education, work, etc. The complication as I see it is when, as you grow up, you…
Read More

Sacrifices and Challenges – Something’s Gotta Give

Making the Sacrifice Sometimes having the yes attitude means you need to sacrifice. Our time is limited on this earth so we best make good use of it. It’s so easy to become sidetracked and distracted from our course of direction. Others in our lives will not have the same vested interest in our success. That’s ok. They don’t need to. However, we need to decide if these folks are hindering us from achieving our goals or purpose. If they are, then we need to decide if we should limit our contact with such persons. Career coach Marty Nimko often refers to the risk vs. reward scenario. In whatever endeavor…
Read More

Learning… to Understand

Be careful what you wish for; or even better, think twice before you leap. These sentiments are always sound advice – too bad we always seem to realize it after the fact. You know all that 20/20 hindsight, etc., blah, blah, blah. No doubt the lessons in life can be hard hitting at times, supposedly to knock some sense back to you. Sometimes the lessons are positive ones that lift us up and make us the better for it. More often, at least in my case, it seems life lessons knock you to the ground and hold you down by both arms. Yeah, I’m learning from these lessons but I…
Read More

Take a Chance – It Just May Be Worth It

There are so many things in life we may feel are happenstance, just a coincidence. What some call the luck of the draw, being in the right place at the right time, or even a “chance” encounter with someone, right? Have you ever wished you were better prepared when this happened? I know I have. How often do we wish we could have jumped at the “chance”? I read the other day that “chance favors only the prepared mind”, a saying attributed to the famed scientist Louis Pasteur. These words stuck with me. They kept playing over and over in my head ... “chance favors only the prepared mind”. I…
Read More

Communication Is an Art

“Do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?” Chris Tucker’s character Carter yelled this at Lee played by Jackie Chan in the movie Rush Hour trying to bridge the communication gap between them. Well, it was more a language barrier, but what Carter understood is that good communication is crucial to having a meaningful and relevant relationship. It’s the cornerstone of any lasting relationship – whether they are fictional cops or our real life associates. Understandably, good communication is an art and like any other art, not all of us are naturally gifted in it. We need to train ourselves to become adept at successfully communicating.…
Read More

Freedom… Enjoy It!

“Freedom discovers the man the moment he loses concern over what impression he is making or about to make.” – Bruce Lee To be free… that is the desire of all men and women isn’t it? But what freedom means to one individual may be the opposite of what it means to another. And a person may appear to be free in some ways while completely enslaved in others, as in an addiction to alcohol or drugs for example. So relative freedom is desired by all if not most and we work to find that balance of freedom in our lives. We’d love to have absolute or complete freedom over…
Read More

It Does Get Better

I guess it does get better. If there’s one thing I've got used to the past few years, it’s that when things go wrong - they go seriously wrong. It doesn't do any good to second guess or beat myself up about how life unfolds. I was making my bed a long time and as the saying goes - ‘you made your bed now go lie in it.’ So here I am – lying in my bed – my huge California King sized bed of life. If there was a way to kick my own ass, I would. Like that scene in the movie “Liar, Liar” when Jim Carrey beats…
Read More

Living life in “the In-Between”

Recently, I reflected on how I’d lost more than a few long time friends in death over the past several years. Some had been battling sickness for awhile, but most of them were untimely, due to a sudden illness – and still relatively young in age. It hit home how fragile our lives really are. I wondered how many had really lived the life they wanted. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. What we do in between is up to us and becomes our legacy. Today, I feel more strongly than ever, that the relatively small amount of time one has to live should be spent in as…
Read More

Fear Is Not An Option – change the option to change the result

Our own fear can often be a huge hindrance to living a life of authenticity, blocking us from doing what we need or want to do in our own interest. Basing such fear on what others may say or think of us if we act on our own. However, if we want to go beyond the ordinary we need to break from that crippling, demoralizing fear. Instead, we need to force ourselves to think outside that fear box so to speak. We need to make it our personal motto that this fear is not an option. Otherwise with fear as an option it soon becomes a crutch when what we need is positive action.

Read More

The Conflict Within – Spiritual versus Emotional

One of the challenges in belonging to, and more specifically being “raised up in” a particular religion or spiritual environment is balancing our natural born need for independence with adherence to set principles. A youth may be said to be indoctrinated in the culture he or she is being raised up in. I don’t believe indoctrination is necessarily a bad thing depending on what’s involved. At its most basic, it simply means being trained or taught. So, although it sounds a bit disconcerting, we are all indoctrinated in something, be it a cultural environment, education, work, etc. The complication as I see it is when, as you grow up, you…
Read More

Sacrifices and Challenges – Something’s Gotta Give

Making the Sacrifice Sometimes having the yes attitude means you need to sacrifice. Our time is limited on this earth so we best make good use of it. It’s so easy to become sidetracked and distracted from our course of direction. Others in our lives will not have the same vested interest in our success. That’s ok. They don’t need to. However, we need to decide if these folks are hindering us from achieving our goals or purpose. If they are, then we need to decide if we should limit our contact with such persons. Career coach Marty Nimko often refers to the risk vs. reward scenario. In whatever endeavor…
Read More

Learning… to Understand

Be careful what you wish for; or even better, think twice before you leap. These sentiments are always sound advice – too bad we always seem to realize it after the fact. You know all that 20/20 hindsight, etc., blah, blah, blah. No doubt the lessons in life can be hard hitting at times, supposedly to knock some sense back to you. Sometimes the lessons are positive ones that lift us up and make us the better for it. More often, at least in my case, it seems life lessons knock you to the ground and hold you down by both arms. Yeah, I’m learning from these lessons but I…
Read More

Take a Chance – It Just May Be Worth It

There are so many things in life we may feel are happenstance, just a coincidence. What some call the luck of the draw, being in the right place at the right time, or even a “chance” encounter with someone, right? Have you ever wished you were better prepared when this happened? I know I have. How often do we wish we could have jumped at the “chance”? I read the other day that “chance favors only the prepared mind”, a saying attributed to the famed scientist Louis Pasteur. These words stuck with me. They kept playing over and over in my head ... “chance favors only the prepared mind”. I…
Read More

Communication Is an Art

“Do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?” Chris Tucker’s character Carter yelled this at Lee played by Jackie Chan in the movie Rush Hour trying to bridge the communication gap between them. Well, it was more a language barrier, but what Carter understood is that good communication is crucial to having a meaningful and relevant relationship. It’s the cornerstone of any lasting relationship – whether they are fictional cops or our real life associates. Understandably, good communication is an art and like any other art, not all of us are naturally gifted in it. We need to train ourselves to become adept at successfully communicating.…
Read More

Freedom… Enjoy It!

“Freedom discovers the man the moment he loses concern over what impression he is making or about to make.” – Bruce Lee To be free… that is the desire of all men and women isn’t it? But what freedom means to one individual may be the opposite of what it means to another. And a person may appear to be free in some ways while completely enslaved in others, as in an addiction to alcohol or drugs for example. So relative freedom is desired by all if not most and we work to find that balance of freedom in our lives. We’d love to have absolute or complete freedom over…
Read More

It Does Get Better

I guess it does get better. If there’s one thing I've got used to the past few years, it’s that when things go wrong - they go seriously wrong. It doesn't do any good to second guess or beat myself up about how life unfolds. I was making my bed a long time and as the saying goes - ‘you made your bed now go lie in it.’ So here I am – lying in my bed – my huge California King sized bed of life. If there was a way to kick my own ass, I would. Like that scene in the movie “Liar, Liar” when Jim Carrey beats…
Read More

Living life in “the In-Between”

Recently, I reflected on how I’d lost more than a few long time friends in death over the past several years. Some had been battling sickness for awhile, but most of them were untimely, due to a sudden illness – and still relatively young in age. It hit home how fragile our lives really are. I wondered how many had really lived the life they wanted. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. What we do in between is up to us and becomes our legacy. Today, I feel more strongly than ever, that the relatively small amount of time one has to live should be spent in as…
Read More

Fear Is Not An Option – change the option to change the result

Our own fear can often be a huge hindrance to living a life of authenticity, blocking us from doing what we need or want to do in our own interest. Basing such fear on what others may say or think of us if we act on our own. However, if we want to go beyond the ordinary we need to break from that crippling, demoralizing fear. Instead, we need to force ourselves to think outside that fear box so to speak. We need to make it our personal motto that this fear is not an option. Otherwise with fear as an option it soon becomes a crutch when what we need is positive action.

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The Conflict Within – Spiritual versus Emotional

One of the challenges in belonging to, and more specifically being “raised up in” a particular religion or spiritual environment is balancing our natural born need for independence with adherence to set principles. A youth may be said to be indoctrinated in the culture he or she is being raised up in. I don’t believe indoctrination is necessarily a bad thing depending on what’s involved. At its most basic, it simply means being trained or taught. So, although it sounds a bit disconcerting, we are all indoctrinated in something, be it a cultural environment, education, work, etc. The complication as I see it is when, as you grow up, you…
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Sacrifices and Challenges – Something’s Gotta Give

Making the Sacrifice Sometimes having the yes attitude means you need to sacrifice. Our time is limited on this earth so we best make good use of it. It’s so easy to become sidetracked and distracted from our course of direction. Others in our lives will not have the same vested interest in our success. That’s ok. They don’t need to. However, we need to decide if these folks are hindering us from achieving our goals or purpose. If they are, then we need to decide if we should limit our contact with such persons. Career coach Marty Nimko often refers to the risk vs. reward scenario. In whatever endeavor…
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Learning… to Understand

Be careful what you wish for; or even better, think twice before you leap. These sentiments are always sound advice – too bad we always seem to realize it after the fact. You know all that 20/20 hindsight, etc., blah, blah, blah. No doubt the lessons in life can be hard hitting at times, supposedly to knock some sense back to you. Sometimes the lessons are positive ones that lift us up and make us the better for it. More often, at least in my case, it seems life lessons knock you to the ground and hold you down by both arms. Yeah, I’m learning from these lessons but I…
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Take a Chance – It Just May Be Worth It

There are so many things in life we may feel are happenstance, just a coincidence. What some call the luck of the draw, being in the right place at the right time, or even a “chance” encounter with someone, right? Have you ever wished you were better prepared when this happened? I know I have. How often do we wish we could have jumped at the “chance”? I read the other day that “chance favors only the prepared mind”, a saying attributed to the famed scientist Louis Pasteur. These words stuck with me. They kept playing over and over in my head ... “chance favors only the prepared mind”. I…
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Communication Is an Art

“Do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?” Chris Tucker’s character Carter yelled this at Lee played by Jackie Chan in the movie Rush Hour trying to bridge the communication gap between them. Well, it was more a language barrier, but what Carter understood is that good communication is crucial to having a meaningful and relevant relationship. It’s the cornerstone of any lasting relationship – whether they are fictional cops or our real life associates. Understandably, good communication is an art and like any other art, not all of us are naturally gifted in it. We need to train ourselves to become adept at successfully communicating.…
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Freedom… Enjoy It!

“Freedom discovers the man the moment he loses concern over what impression he is making or about to make.” – Bruce Lee To be free… that is the desire of all men and women isn’t it? But what freedom means to one individual may be the opposite of what it means to another. And a person may appear to be free in some ways while completely enslaved in others, as in an addiction to alcohol or drugs for example. So relative freedom is desired by all if not most and we work to find that balance of freedom in our lives. We’d love to have absolute or complete freedom over…
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It Does Get Better

I guess it does get better. If there’s one thing I've got used to the past few years, it’s that when things go wrong - they go seriously wrong. It doesn't do any good to second guess or beat myself up about how life unfolds. I was making my bed a long time and as the saying goes - ‘you made your bed now go lie in it.’ So here I am – lying in my bed – my huge California King sized bed of life. If there was a way to kick my own ass, I would. Like that scene in the movie “Liar, Liar” when Jim Carrey beats…
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Living life in “the In-Between”

Recently, I reflected on how I’d lost more than a few long time friends in death over the past several years. Some had been battling sickness for awhile, but most of them were untimely, due to a sudden illness – and still relatively young in age. It hit home how fragile our lives really are. I wondered how many had really lived the life they wanted. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. What we do in between is up to us and becomes our legacy. Today, I feel more strongly than ever, that the relatively small amount of time one has to live should be spent in as…
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Fear Is Not An Option – change the option to change the result

Our own fear can often be a huge hindrance to living a life of authenticity, blocking us from doing what we need or want to do in our own interest. Basing such fear on what others may say or think of us if we act on our own. However, if we want to go beyond the ordinary we need to break from that crippling, demoralizing fear. Instead, we need to force ourselves to think outside that fear box so to speak. We need to make it our personal motto that this fear is not an option. Otherwise with fear as an option it soon becomes a crutch when what we need is positive action.

Read More

The Conflict Within – Spiritual versus Emotional

One of the challenges in belonging to, and more specifically being “raised up in” a particular religion or spiritual environment is balancing our natural born need for independence with adherence to set principles. A youth may be said to be indoctrinated in the culture he or she is being raised up in. I don’t believe indoctrination is necessarily a bad thing depending on what’s involved. At its most basic, it simply means being trained or taught. So, although it sounds a bit disconcerting, we are all indoctrinated in something, be it a cultural environment, education, work, etc. The complication as I see it is when, as you grow up, you…
Read More

Sacrifices and Challenges – Something’s Gotta Give

Making the Sacrifice Sometimes having the yes attitude means you need to sacrifice. Our time is limited on this earth so we best make good use of it. It’s so easy to become sidetracked and distracted from our course of direction. Others in our lives will not have the same vested interest in our success. That’s ok. They don’t need to. However, we need to decide if these folks are hindering us from achieving our goals or purpose. If they are, then we need to decide if we should limit our contact with such persons. Career coach Marty Nimko often refers to the risk vs. reward scenario. In whatever endeavor…
Read More

Learning… to Understand

Be careful what you wish for; or even better, think twice before you leap. These sentiments are always sound advice – too bad we always seem to realize it after the fact. You know all that 20/20 hindsight, etc., blah, blah, blah. No doubt the lessons in life can be hard hitting at times, supposedly to knock some sense back to you. Sometimes the lessons are positive ones that lift us up and make us the better for it. More often, at least in my case, it seems life lessons knock you to the ground and hold you down by both arms. Yeah, I’m learning from these lessons but I…
Read More

Take a Chance – It Just May Be Worth It

There are so many things in life we may feel are happenstance, just a coincidence. What some call the luck of the draw, being in the right place at the right time, or even a “chance” encounter with someone, right? Have you ever wished you were better prepared when this happened? I know I have. How often do we wish we could have jumped at the “chance”? I read the other day that “chance favors only the prepared mind”, a saying attributed to the famed scientist Louis Pasteur. These words stuck with me. They kept playing over and over in my head ... “chance favors only the prepared mind”. I…
Read More

Communication Is an Art

“Do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?” Chris Tucker’s character Carter yelled this at Lee played by Jackie Chan in the movie Rush Hour trying to bridge the communication gap between them. Well, it was more a language barrier, but what Carter understood is that good communication is crucial to having a meaningful and relevant relationship. It’s the cornerstone of any lasting relationship – whether they are fictional cops or our real life associates. Understandably, good communication is an art and like any other art, not all of us are naturally gifted in it. We need to train ourselves to become adept at successfully communicating.…
Read More

Freedom… Enjoy It!

“Freedom discovers the man the moment he loses concern over what impression he is making or about to make.” – Bruce Lee To be free… that is the desire of all men and women isn’t it? But what freedom means to one individual may be the opposite of what it means to another. And a person may appear to be free in some ways while completely enslaved in others, as in an addiction to alcohol or drugs for example. So relative freedom is desired by all if not most and we work to find that balance of freedom in our lives. We’d love to have absolute or complete freedom over…
Read More

It Does Get Better

I guess it does get better. If there’s one thing I've got used to the past few years, it’s that when things go wrong - they go seriously wrong. It doesn't do any good to second guess or beat myself up about how life unfolds. I was making my bed a long time and as the saying goes - ‘you made your bed now go lie in it.’ So here I am – lying in my bed – my huge California King sized bed of life. If there was a way to kick my own ass, I would. Like that scene in the movie “Liar, Liar” when Jim Carrey beats…
Read More

Living life in “the In-Between”

Recently, I reflected on how I’d lost more than a few long time friends in death over the past several years. Some had been battling sickness for awhile, but most of them were untimely, due to a sudden illness – and still relatively young in age. It hit home how fragile our lives really are. I wondered how many had really lived the life they wanted. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. What we do in between is up to us and becomes our legacy. Today, I feel more strongly than ever, that the relatively small amount of time one has to live should be spent in as…
Read More

Fear Is Not An Option – change the option to change the result

Our own fear can often be a huge hindrance to living a life of authenticity, blocking us from doing what we need or want to do in our own interest. Basing such fear on what others may say or think of us if we act on our own. However, if we want to go beyond the ordinary we need to break from that crippling, demoralizing fear. Instead, we need to force ourselves to think outside that fear box so to speak. We need to make it our personal motto that this fear is not an option. Otherwise with fear as an option it soon becomes a crutch when what we need is positive action.

Read More

The Conflict Within – Spiritual versus Emotional

One of the challenges in belonging to, and more specifically being “raised up in” a particular religion or spiritual environment is balancing our natural born need for independence with adherence to set principles. A youth may be said to be indoctrinated in the culture he or she is being raised up in. I don’t believe indoctrination is necessarily a bad thing depending on what’s involved. At its most basic, it simply means being trained or taught. So, although it sounds a bit disconcerting, we are all indoctrinated in something, be it a cultural environment, education, work, etc. The complication as I see it is when, as you grow up, you…
Read More

Sacrifices and Challenges – Something’s Gotta Give

Making the Sacrifice Sometimes having the yes attitude means you need to sacrifice. Our time is limited on this earth so we best make good use of it. It’s so easy to become sidetracked and distracted from our course of direction. Others in our lives will not have the same vested interest in our success. That’s ok. They don’t need to. However, we need to decide if these folks are hindering us from achieving our goals or purpose. If they are, then we need to decide if we should limit our contact with such persons. Career coach Marty Nimko often refers to the risk vs. reward scenario. In whatever endeavor…
Read More

Learning… to Understand

Be careful what you wish for; or even better, think twice before you leap. These sentiments are always sound advice – too bad we always seem to realize it after the fact. You know all that 20/20 hindsight, etc., blah, blah, blah. No doubt the lessons in life can be hard hitting at times, supposedly to knock some sense back to you. Sometimes the lessons are positive ones that lift us up and make us the better for it. More often, at least in my case, it seems life lessons knock you to the ground and hold you down by both arms. Yeah, I’m learning from these lessons but I…
Read More

Take a Chance – It Just May Be Worth It

There are so many things in life we may feel are happenstance, just a coincidence. What some call the luck of the draw, being in the right place at the right time, or even a “chance” encounter with someone, right? Have you ever wished you were better prepared when this happened? I know I have. How often do we wish we could have jumped at the “chance”? I read the other day that “chance favors only the prepared mind”, a saying attributed to the famed scientist Louis Pasteur. These words stuck with me. They kept playing over and over in my head ... “chance favors only the prepared mind”. I…
Read More

Communication Is an Art

“Do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?” Chris Tucker’s character Carter yelled this at Lee played by Jackie Chan in the movie Rush Hour trying to bridge the communication gap between them. Well, it was more a language barrier, but what Carter understood is that good communication is crucial to having a meaningful and relevant relationship. It’s the cornerstone of any lasting relationship – whether they are fictional cops or our real life associates. Understandably, good communication is an art and like any other art, not all of us are naturally gifted in it. We need to train ourselves to become adept at successfully communicating.…
Read More

Freedom… Enjoy It!

“Freedom discovers the man the moment he loses concern over what impression he is making or about to make.” – Bruce Lee To be free… that is the desire of all men and women isn’t it? But what freedom means to one individual may be the opposite of what it means to another. And a person may appear to be free in some ways while completely enslaved in others, as in an addiction to alcohol or drugs for example. So relative freedom is desired by all if not most and we work to find that balance of freedom in our lives. We’d love to have absolute or complete freedom over…
Read More

It Does Get Better

I guess it does get better. If there’s one thing I've got used to the past few years, it’s that when things go wrong - they go seriously wrong. It doesn't do any good to second guess or beat myself up about how life unfolds. I was making my bed a long time and as the saying goes - ‘you made your bed now go lie in it.’ So here I am – lying in my bed – my huge California King sized bed of life. If there was a way to kick my own ass, I would. Like that scene in the movie “Liar, Liar” when Jim Carrey beats…
Read More

Living life in “the In-Between”

Recently, I reflected on how I’d lost more than a few long time friends in death over the past several years. Some had been battling sickness for awhile, but most of them were untimely, due to a sudden illness – and still relatively young in age. It hit home how fragile our lives really are. I wondered how many had really lived the life they wanted. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. What we do in between is up to us and becomes our legacy. Today, I feel more strongly than ever, that the relatively small amount of time one has to live should be spent in as…
Read More

Fear Is Not An Option – change the option to change the result

Our own fear can often be a huge hindrance to living a life of authenticity, blocking us from doing what we need or want to do in our own interest. Basing such fear on what others may say or think of us if we act on our own. However, if we want to go beyond the ordinary we need to break from that crippling, demoralizing fear. Instead, we need to force ourselves to think outside that fear box so to speak. We need to make it our personal motto that this fear is not an option. Otherwise with fear as an option it soon becomes a crutch when what we need is positive action.

Read More

The Conflict Within – Spiritual versus Emotional

One of the challenges in belonging to, and more specifically being “raised up in” a particular religion or spiritual environment is balancing our natural born need for independence with adherence to set principles. A youth may be said to be indoctrinated in the culture he or she is being raised up in. I don’t believe indoctrination is necessarily a bad thing depending on what’s involved. At its most basic, it simply means being trained or taught. So, although it sounds a bit disconcerting, we are all indoctrinated in something, be it a cultural environment, education, work, etc. The complication as I see it is when, as you grow up, you…
Read More

Sacrifices and Challenges – Something’s Gotta Give

Making the Sacrifice Sometimes having the yes attitude means you need to sacrifice. Our time is limited on this earth so we best make good use of it. It’s so easy to become sidetracked and distracted from our course of direction. Others in our lives will not have the same vested interest in our success. That’s ok. They don’t need to. However, we need to decide if these folks are hindering us from achieving our goals or purpose. If they are, then we need to decide if we should limit our contact with such persons. Career coach Marty Nimko often refers to the risk vs. reward scenario. In whatever endeavor…
Read More

Learning… to Understand

Be careful what you wish for; or even better, think twice before you leap. These sentiments are always sound advice – too bad we always seem to realize it after the fact. You know all that 20/20 hindsight, etc., blah, blah, blah. No doubt the lessons in life can be hard hitting at times, supposedly to knock some sense back to you. Sometimes the lessons are positive ones that lift us up and make us the better for it. More often, at least in my case, it seems life lessons knock you to the ground and hold you down by both arms. Yeah, I’m learning from these lessons but I…
Read More

Take a Chance – It Just May Be Worth It

There are so many things in life we may feel are happenstance, just a coincidence. What some call the luck of the draw, being in the right place at the right time, or even a “chance” encounter with someone, right? Have you ever wished you were better prepared when this happened? I know I have. How often do we wish we could have jumped at the “chance”? I read the other day that “chance favors only the prepared mind”, a saying attributed to the famed scientist Louis Pasteur. These words stuck with me. They kept playing over and over in my head ... “chance favors only the prepared mind”. I…
Read More

Communication Is an Art

“Do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?” Chris Tucker’s character Carter yelled this at Lee played by Jackie Chan in the movie Rush Hour trying to bridge the communication gap between them. Well, it was more a language barrier, but what Carter understood is that good communication is crucial to having a meaningful and relevant relationship. It’s the cornerstone of any lasting relationship – whether they are fictional cops or our real life associates. Understandably, good communication is an art and like any other art, not all of us are naturally gifted in it. We need to train ourselves to become adept at successfully communicating.…
Read More

Freedom… Enjoy It!

“Freedom discovers the man the moment he loses concern over what impression he is making or about to make.” – Bruce Lee To be free… that is the desire of all men and women isn’t it? But what freedom means to one individual may be the opposite of what it means to another. And a person may appear to be free in some ways while completely enslaved in others, as in an addiction to alcohol or drugs for example. So relative freedom is desired by all if not most and we work to find that balance of freedom in our lives. We’d love to have absolute or complete freedom over…
Read More

It Does Get Better

I guess it does get better. If there’s one thing I've got used to the past few years, it’s that when things go wrong - they go seriously wrong. It doesn't do any good to second guess or beat myself up about how life unfolds. I was making my bed a long time and as the saying goes - ‘you made your bed now go lie in it.’ So here I am – lying in my bed – my huge California King sized bed of life. If there was a way to kick my own ass, I would. Like that scene in the movie “Liar, Liar” when Jim Carrey beats…
Read More

Living life in “the In-Between”

Recently, I reflected on how I’d lost more than a few long time friends in death over the past several years. Some had been battling sickness for awhile, but most of them were untimely, due to a sudden illness – and still relatively young in age. It hit home how fragile our lives really are. I wondered how many had really lived the life they wanted. We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. What we do in between is up to us and becomes our legacy. Today, I feel more strongly than ever, that the relatively small amount of time one has to live should be spent in as…
Read More