Living Life in The In-Between
Living Life in The In-Between
As the years roll by, I’ve lost more than a few longtime friends in death. Some had been battling sickness for a while. For others it was unexpected due to a sudden illness and still young in age. It hit home how fragile our lives are. I wondered how many had lived the life they wanted.
We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing.
What we do in between is up to us and becomes our legacy. Time is our most precious commodity, and we lose some of that precious time, every minute, every day. It’s so important to make the best use of it.
If you knew today would be your last day to live, how would you live it? In fear or resentment? Would you spend it dwelling on regret for past wrongs? It seems nonsensical to spend our last breathing day like that.
We’d more likely live with a sense of urgency. We’d let go of the resentment toward others and ask their forgiveness if we failed them somehow. Then, we’d focus on several things we’d always wanted to do or enjoyed doing, before our time was up.
Yet, many of us live our lives in fear, in resentment, in regret and in other compartments that hold us back from living our lives to the full. Why? Often, it’s a matter of how we’re conditioned by our lives and circumstances.
Humans are predictable and do what others around them are doing. It makes us feel normal.
Is living the so-called ‘normal’ life the best way to live? Not if we recycle the same fears, resentments, regrets others put upon us with the same predictable outcome in life. It reminds me of the insanity definition attributed to Albert Einstein. Imagine doing the same thing over and over and yet expecting a different outcome each time. That is insanity.
But life doesn’t give a shit. Life moves on even while we live in the past. We can’t undo what’s done already. Yesterday is no more. If we hang on to yesterday, we’re trying to live in the past, squandering the present and what will be for our future. You will make mistakes. That’s part of life’s journey. When you do, rectify them as soon and as best you can, and move on. Though some will try to hold you to your past, it’s up to you to let it go.
Yes, challenges are innumerable and life is unkind if left to itself. But. each of us has three parts to our existence — birth, death and what’s in between. We have no control over the start of our lives and little control over the end of lives. Ah… but the in-between part… the in-between is ours for the making.
Each day we live in the in-between is a chance to make an impact in our own or someone else’s life.
It’s our choice. It’s up to us. When we’re younger, the in-between seems like it will never end. As we grow older, we understand how short life is. As we see the lives of those we knew and loved come to an end, it becomes a sobering reminder of our own mortality.
The Bible says men may live 70 years, and if they had special strength, maybe 80 years. In our culture, after we reach maturity, we work 30 to 35 of those years up to retirement age, which is now edging up to 70. The math here isn’t very encouraging. Most of us won’t have a lot of free time on our hands. Life as lived in the Status quo is short.
If we have a hope of a better life ahead — an afterlife of some sort, it provides us a measure of comfort as we see the days pass. But we’re living NOW and have a choice of how we want to spend our time.
Live in the present. Take responsibility and live life with a sense of urgency. We’re living in the in-between now — make the best use of it!by